The 10 Red Flags That She’s Just Using You

1. She Only Reaches Out When She Needs Something

‎If she **ghosts you for weeks** but suddenly texts when she needs a favor, money, or emotional support, it’s a major red flag. A woman who genuinely cares will check in regularly, not just when it’s convenient for her.  

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‎2. Your Relationship is Purely Transactional

‎Every interaction feels like a quid pro quo—she only does nice things if you do something in return. If she keeps score ("I did this, so you owe me that"), she’s treating the relationship like a business deal, not a genuine connection.  

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‎3. She Avoids Commitment but Keeps You Around

‎She says she’s "not ready for a relationship" but still expects you to act like a boyfriend—emotional support, dates, attention—without giving you the same in return. This means she’s keeping you as a backup option.  

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‎4. She’s Flaky and Unreliable

‎She cancels plans last minute, takes hours (or days) to reply, and only meets up when she’s bored or has nothing better to do. If she’s not making an effort, she doesn’t value your time.  

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‎5. You’re Always the One Initiating

‎If you’re the only one calling, texting first, or planning dates, she’s not invested. A woman who’s truly interested will pursue you just as much as you pursue her.  

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‎6. She’s Secretive About Her Social Life

‎She avoids introducing you to friends, never posts about you, or acts single around others. If she’s hiding you, she’s either ashamed of the relationship or keeping her options open.  

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‎7. She Uses Guilt or Emotional Blackmail

‎Phrases like "If you really cared, you’d do this for me" or "I guess I’ll just be alone then" are manipulation tactics. She’s leveraging your emotions to get what she wants.  

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‎8. She’s Only Around When Things Are Good

‎The moment you’re going through a tough time, she disappears. But when life is smooth, she’s all over you. A real partner sticks around through ups and downs.  

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‎9. She Expects Financial Support Without Reciprocation

‎If she frequently asks for money, gifts, or expensive dates but never offers to contribute, she’s using you as an ATM. A genuine woman will want an equal partnership.  

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‎10. She Keeps Exes or Other Men on the Hook

‎If she’s still texting exes, flirting with other guys, or keeping a roster of "options," she’s not serious about you. She’s just keeping you around until something better comes along.  

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‎How to Respond If You’re Being Used

‎- Set boundaries – Stop overextending yourself.  

‎- Call her out – Ask directly about her intentions.  

‎- Walk away if needed – Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t value you.  

Final Thoughts

‎If multiple red flags match your situation, it’s time to reevaluate the relationship. Don’t let someone exploit your kindness—you deserve better.  

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‎Did you recognize any of these signs? Share your experiences in the comments!

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